Getting Past Fear

It’s an amazing thing the extremes that some men will go through to avoid dealing with what they really want sexually.

Now we’ve all seen it. The man who sounds all excited to meet online, yet somehow it never happens. The man who when he does meet as soon as he cums can’t wait to get out of there. What is it that causes this?

Essentially it’s fear.

It’s a number of kinds of fears. Our society regardless of how tolerant it is of the gay lifestyle still looks a bit askance at guys who like cock. So there is fear society’s reactions to their less than conventional tastes.

It can be fear of the unknown. I mean we’re all a bit afraid of things we don’t know. And it’s a big step from fantasizing about sucking a cock and actually doing it.

It can be fear of disease yet if we play safely we can indulge most tastes with minimal risk.

Yet like jumping out of an airplane with a parachute, we find that the fear fades and eventually is replaced by exhilaration, and pleasure. And it is the pleasure that we seek here isn’t it? Lots of that!

Woody Allen was once asked is sex dirty? He said “It is, if you do it right.”

Well sex isn’t dirty but it’s awful fun to act like it is. There is a certain deliciousness that comes from indulging in what other people would find dirty or at least naughty. This thrill is what we seek, the adrenaline rush that goes along with doing something you’ve been afraid to do.

Now I am going to go on record as saying there is no sex that is wrong that is done between two consensual adults and which does no harm.

Now there are things I won’t do. I’m not a fan of water sports and scat leaves me cold. But I am prepared to say that anything else is fair game. I’ve been broadening my horizons for close to two decades now. My first foray into gay sex was a three-way with two other guys and we talked about whether it was to extreme (I mean afterwards. We were a bit caught up in the moment during!) And I remember one of them reflecting and saying ”We’re already sexual outlaws because we like cock. What difference does it make if we also like to enjoy it in groups of three or even MORE?”

Anyone who likes sex in extreme manifestations is a sexual outlaw in the view of many people so who the heck are we worrying about in exploring primal sexuality? Lets just relax and enjoy what we’re doing and yield to animal nature while we suck that cock, eat that ass or fuck that manhole?

All we have to lose are our inhibitions.